Sunday, July 15, 2012

Good Fences?

My Mom has lived in the same house for 20 years. I love it. There is a part of me that wants to quit my current life, move home, and spend my next few years renovating it. We've had our share of kooky neighbors, but we've always had pleasant enough relationships with them. Perhaps not friendly, but always cordial and respectful.

Well, this morning (last night?) my Mom found this note taped to her front door.


This woman's house (that she doesn't live in, mind you, she just rents out - driving down every one's property values in an already *awesome* real estate economy) has a driveway that we have been using for 20 years. Before we used it, the people who owned our house for 20 some-odd years before us used it. Why? Because when you live in small town full of nice people, that is what you do. You share things like decent, civil human beings.

But now Kathy Afzali has decided (after a single complaint) that being neighborly, and kind, and a decent human being is trumped by being kind of a dick.

This has nothing to do with her being a delegate for Maryland (which is something she is probably fine at doing), this has to do with her not being a particularly nice person and I, for one, wouldn't want not-nice people representing me in government. But, I don't vote in Maryland anymore. Its not really up to me.

I feel like this is a perfect example of how people have just become more rude and antisocial. Why is that? Why are we all jerks? Even just 20 years ago, there was no question about us using that driveway and now we are getting passive aggressive notes addressed to "neighbor." Kathy Afzali didn't even have the decency to find out what my mother's name was and address it to her personally.

This note is not particularly rude when just read, but when you take the time to learn the back story, and if you know the community - you would know that the polite thing to do would have been to knock on the door, and work things out. When you own property in a small town, you do things the small town way, right? Otherwise, what is the point of living in a place like this? Move to Urbana if you want to be mean.*

I am just angry. And disappointed. I don't image that Kathy Afzali has any interest in being a good small-town neighbor and I doubt this blog will change that. But I wanted to put this out on the internet in the hopes that it gives someone else pause before being so inconsiderate.

*Ooooh. burn. Sorry Urbana, I didn't really mean it.

2 comments:

Jenna H said...

Dear Afzalis: In the spirit of your note, please do not trespass onto my private property and adhere things to my door with a tacky substance. My home and door is not available for your personal use or inter-neighbor communications.

In the future, you can communicate with me via the appropriate method: the US Postal Service.

Signed,
Comfort Dorn, FNN
P.S. I'd leave my address, but I'm pretty sure you know where we live.

*FNN - Formerly Nice Neighbor

Chelsea Marie Long said...

What a turd ferguson. Your family never uses that driveway to park cars or anything. Stupid. Next time we're all home I vote to park all of our cars in the driveway and then get very intoxicated and leave the cans/wine bottles in her yard. Too bad that would make me an equally terdy-fergy. But I can dream of getting revenge, right?

She's pint-sized and amazing.